8 year relationship-high school sweetheart-live together-I want out! I THINK?
Question by deborahd141: 8 year relationship-high school sweetheart-live together-I want out! I THINK?
Here’s the story. I hope you actually read this even though it’s long…..I need advice! I got into a relationship with my current boyfriend 8 years ago. We were 13! We have been together ever since. At first (well the first 6 or 7 years) I thought he was absolutely the one I would marry one day. My family liked him but at the same time they didn’t like his lack of motivation to go to college or his lack of wanting to travel or even eat new, different things (he’s so picky). When we were 20 he finally wanted to live together. I was soooooo happy! And that was less than a year ago! We moved in together and a few months later my feelings started changing. I guess it wasn’t all of a sudden but I thought living together might help. I feel like as a person I have changed almost 100% and we don’t click. He’s still kinda stuck in those high school days and I feel like the man in the relationship always speaking up and having to call places and deal with adult issues. His music interests are 100% opposite from mine, he swears like there’s no tomorrow, and I just don’t see myself with someone like that. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy; loyal, good looking, honest, and totally into me. I’ve suggested that things need to change a few times but he breaks down and I end up feeling bad and we stay together. I think he can tell that I’m not happy because he says I never want to be intimate or even hug/kiss him and he’s right. I just don’t have any interest. There are times when I KINDA remember why I loved him but how can I when I was only 13??? I wish we met now and things would have been better maybe. I’m afraid that if we break up he will make someone else’s life happy with all that I taught him and I might regret leaving him! Is it normal to feel like I’m making a mistake even though I also feel so disconnected? I feel so comfortable with him and I can’t imagine ever feeling that way with anyone else. I think we both need other experiences (sexually and emotionally) because we never really did the REAL dating thing with each other or anyone else. It doesn’t help that we have a neighbor who’s extremely hot and I wish I could get to know him better because he seems very interesting. My BF HATES that he lives there because he knows how I feel about this guy. I can’t get that guy out of my head. Can someone please give me some advice??? ANYTHING would help!
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Answer by Simone
Sounds like its time for a change:)You may feel as if your making a mistake, but it sounds like you’ve grown apart. You obviously have other options:)
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according to me you made a commitment really eaaerly and 13 yrs is like real young… congrats dat ur relationship came dis far but nw dat u guys r a stage wen u myt need dfferent things…
i guess if dis relation is making u unhappy u shouldn’t let it happen… calmly discuss this with your boy friend and make it mutual or if he his willing to help work out the relation then do it but itd important that your boy friend needs to know what is on ur head…
al d best:)