am i being unreasonable that i am really upsett by this?
Question by Goosberrry: am i being unreasonable that i am really upsett by this?
well basically we have lived in our house for about 10 years now ( im 14 ) and i have never likes where we live, ever sicne we lived here. i hate my town, always have. wen i was little i used to cry because all my friends lived far away and there were no shops.and i no im probably bein harsh but i dont like msot of the people who live in our town (they like middle calss type people, old people or families – its a pretty expencive ariea and we cant really afford it, were not very high in cash and never have been but coz of things to do with my family we can afford it, its complicated…. lol) but basically our whole fmaily doesnt fit in, but my brother jack has a few friends here and my mum has 2 friends here. but my brother jack is currently traveling on his gap year and is goign to uni pretty soon. he just has a spair room.
well recently coz my dad says he cant pay us anymore, or sometimes a tiny bit (my parents are split up, hes abit of douche bag.) we were goign to move hosue to a differnt town near my town i live in now (next to wehere i live now) to a more affordable house so that my mum didnt have to pay a morgage anymore so we could get by on her wage ( shes a cleaner) and benifits and everything. and i was really really happy about this, coz the town we were moving to is where i spend most of my time anyway, all my friends live here, its nearer to my school, it has shops… ect. i was so so so happy, like REALLY happy. and i was so happy because i was finally moving out of this town that i hate, and always have. my mum has some friends there too, and its not very far away from her old mates either. my brother jack has friends there aswell, and its also not far from his old wons.
in the new house my brother jack wasnt goign to have his own room because he is goign to university, so wen he visists he was gunna shair with my brother hugh, and he doesnt mind this.
we had everything sorted, i was looking at hosues ont eh internet, she found a good estate agent, she did all the calculations and we would be alot better off. it was all sorted.
but the otehr day my mum told us that we are no logner moving, she doing somethign else to get money, i think she is doing this thing where she doesnt have to pay the morgage.. i dont understand it fully, but is sort of like the sam effect as moving – we woudl ahve more money. and i was really upsette, like REALLY upsette. and i still am.
and my mum was just having this huge goa t me, and i was being horrible to her or anything i was just upsette about everything, because you dont know how badly i wanted to move. i HATE hwere i live. i was so exited to live somwhere where i was happy.
she sais the reason she didnt want to move was she didnt want to have to deal with the stress of moving, and i know its stressfull but i was goign to help her.
is it unreasonable to you taht i am upsette? because she really seems to think it is. she says im being selfish. which maybe i am? i dont know. i dont really ask much of her, i dont ask her to buy me alot of things, i £2 a week, i pay for my own stuff. i clean up my nmess, i make my own dinner and things. i dont know it jsut really upsette me, and im still upsette. id this unreasonable to you? please tell me your opinion xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Best answer:
Answer by Keaton
no u r not being selfish =, parents dont get how much kids need an enviroment with friends and things to do… iv lived in the contry now 4 9yrs and i absolutly hate it bcuz there is no one my age that lives around me. if what happened to u happened to me i would react the same way so ur completely fine in reacting the way u r…. try sitting down and talking to ur mom telling her how unhappy u r and how much better things would be if u moved
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No, I really don’t blame you for feeling the way you do. Just because she has worked out a plan to stay there in that town and in that house does not mean that you or her will be happy there. To say that one does not want to move just because it’s a lot of trouble is kind of a cop out. I don’t know what you can do about it other than continue to try to convince her though.