Why do Western people assume that Muslim men do not love and respect their wives?
Question by Em: Why do Western people assume that Muslim men do not love and respect their wives?
In Islam, women are not objects. They are valued human beings. Read this true love story for proof:
In 1607, Emperor Shah Jahan married Arjumand Banu Begum. He was 46 and she was 16 at the time. She would become the unquestioned love of his life. After their wedding celebrations, Shah Jahan “finding her in appearance and character elect among all the women of the time”, gave her the title ‘Mumtaz Mahal’ Begum (Chosen One of the Palace). Shah Jahan already had 3 other wives but by all accounts, he was so taken with Mumtaz, that he showed little interest in exercising his polygamous rights with the earlier wives. According to the official court chronicler, Qazwini, the relationship with his other wives “had nothing more than the status of marriage. The intimacy, deep affection, attention and favour which His Majesty had for Mumtaz exceeded by a thousand times what he felt for any other.”
Mumtaz Mahal had a very deep and loving marriage with Shah Jahan. Even during her lifetime, poets would extol her beauty, gracefulness and compassion. Mumtaz Mahal was Shah Jahan’s trusted companion, travelling with him all over the Mughal Empire. His trust in her was so great that he even gave her his imperial seal, the Muhr Uzah. Mumtaz was portrayed as the perfect wife with no aspirations to political power but she was a great influence on him, apparently often intervening on behalf of the poor and destitute.
Despite her frequent pregnancies, Mumtaz traveled with Shah Jahan’s entourage throughout his military campaigns. She was his constant companion and trusted confidant and their relationship was intense. In their nineteen years of marriage, they had fourteen children together, seven of whom died at birth or at a very young age.
Mumtaz died in Burhanpur in 1631, while giving birth to their fourteenth child. In the immediate aftermath of his bereavement, the emperor was reportedly inconsolable. After her death, Shah Jahan went into secluded mourning for a year. When he appeared again, he looked defeated, his hair had turned white, his back was bent, and his face worn. He gave his throne to his eldest son, Aurangazeb.
Shah Jahan began planning the design and construction of a suitable mausoleum and funerary garden in Agra for his wife. Today, the Taj Mahal stands as the ultimate monument to love, and a homage to her beauty and life.
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Its an evil double standard in our society….all thanks to feminism 
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thanks to feminazis
You can post all the anecdotes and scriptures you want, but the bottom line is many fanatical Muslims and Muslim societies condone violence against women. You can’t deny this.
It may not be fair to label all Muslims that way but if moderate and liberal Muslims spoke up against these acts and not against people who abhor the violence then perhaps people wouldn’t stereotype Muslims as much.
how can you claim to respect your woman when she has to do as you say or get beaten? If you respect someone you respect their wishes and let them do what they want not do what you want
me and my woman share a mutual love and respect so she does what i want on her own free will without me asking or telling…i do what she wants too by my own choice so we always please each other equally
We’re ignorant and we sadly only believe what we see on T.V., read in our “history” books, and movies. Our concept of love is really rather cheesey and unrealistic to a lot of other cultures. We believe the whole “love conquers all” deal and flowers and chocolates and all that crap. You are way more realistic when it comes to the lasting foundations of how to make a marriage work, and I’m not joking. I have seen many Muslim men treat their women with love and respect. I have even seen them embrace their daughters with open arms and love. What people need to understand is that damn near every other concept of other cultures has been spoon fed to us. Travel! Go and see how other cultures express love and respect! Just because it isn’t the Hallmark version you grew up with doesn’t mean it’s any less valuble.
Um, I don’t. I’m not a big fan of stereotypes, thus I try to keep an open mind.
I’m not that big of a fan of polygamy though. And I can’t imagine being pregnant that much! Or losing those kids.
I heard that the Taj Mahal was a mausoleum before. I’m glad to know the story behind it now. It’s a very beautiful story, too.
As much as I hate to admit it, it’s because many of us in western cultures are very ignorant and, are too lazy to educate ourselves before making any judgments. Too many of us depend on the media for an education.
Im sorry but…the story is kind of irrelevant to your point.
Im not a western woman, but…here’s a few things:
A man can marry up to four women
A woman should be covered up completely
It is socially unacceptable for a woman to do things that are accepted for men (not religiously, but socially accepted) like drink, do drugs, come home really late, fool around or even have sex, there is a big gap
A woman’s place is generally in the house to feed and clean for a man..
Short answer to a long novel. They have no respect for themselves let alone women or children for that matter. They would rather strap bombs to their loved ones for the sake of religion. They think higher of their goats than their fellow humans.
It is because as Westerners, especially Americans, we are pretty much taught that if it isn’t done our way, it is wrong. For some reason, some people have to control everything and everyone and we can’t focus on our own problems. No, I don’t agree with a man abusing his wife or treating her like an object, but I focus on the fact that my husband treats me like a queen and don’t worry about everyone else’s life. There are plenty of Western men who treat women as objects(hello, the HUGE porn industry in the US), and beat their women with no repercutions(Charlie Sheen got only 30 days in jail for beating his wife). Sometimes we need to take a look at our own society.
This is my opinion, only any opinion. The culture of the united states is predominately white, anglo-saxon, protestant. They are ethnocentric in their beliefs. They believe and promote their values, ideas, history, or whatever is correct, true and superior. The success of America is due to the influence of their culture. The issues with other cultures is they don’t assimilate and behave more like them. No culture is perfect. Indeed, the grass is green on the other side. Muslim women complain about their lot in life. Yet, According to accounts their are no homeless women in muslim countries. In America there are women stripping and selling sex for a living. To point the flaws of muslim men deserves the consideration of the flaws of American males ( mainly white males). American males marry and keep up appearances. Consider that he may have a few girlfriends that he visits regularly. He is a hard worker and provider, yet in his free moments he would rather spend his time away from his family that he loves and cherishes in drunkeness or gambling. He protects the virtue of his daughter, yet loves pornography and young girls. Is something wrong with all of this? Maybe, maybe not! The very same values that is put on a pedestal as the standard and desired, is really meant for everyone else and not him. The muslim culture has many beautiful aspects (a longer and well documented history, great food, most of the world’s oil reserves). Beauty causes envy and envy jealousy.
Sorry man, I’m not a Feminist, but as a “western man”, I apologize for these Feminists for painting ALL middle-easterners as abusive, male chauvinists!
Not everybody believes everything they hear.