Weird travel situation. Very anxious. Please help?
Question by Lauren H: Weird travel situation. Very anxious. Please help?
Hi everyone -
I have been dreaming of going to India for a few years now. I am a regular at a restaurant in my city owned by a man from Punjab and his wife. I was asking about traveling there, for future reference, when the man asked me if I would like to accompany he, his mother, his wife and 3 small girls to Punjab.
I have always wanted to go and they seem to be a very nice, sweet family, but the problem is that I don’t know them very well, and some people feel it’s too dangerous to go with people you don’t know completely. But then I have read that Punjabi hospitality is quite famous.
I just don’t know what to do? My gut feeling is that it should be okay, but I really am 50/50. And I feel like I can’t make that decision!
Any advice is so appreciated, thank you so much!
Best answer:
Answer by Wolf
hi, I do not know that much about that family or india.. i ca only tell you about my experience with the people that live there that i talked to. the men can be demanding, I know other people (americans ) go there. but i would not go without knowing the family really really well. I am not saying people from india are bad. but yes can be dangerous.
India look at women as “things” when you go there, i know this is scary but has happened before in differnet countries, you may never be able to retun home. yes you want to go there. to visit but think before going. you have no clue about this place. you have no clue where to go, i bet you stay with them? i know india people here may not think like family in india thinks. but it is funny you asked them and said intrested then WHAM they own a resturant and kids and have time to take you? THINK about this? There kids have to be in school.. and what about the business? and you need a passport etc..
Something is fishy please please do not go.
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Though punjabi’s are considered to be nice but I won’t suggest you to go. Its better to be safe.. specially in a place new to you.
Culturally, there’s a BIG gap between you and the host family…and travelling with a family you do not know well can become troublesome for both the parties. You might not be able to convey any problems you face during your stay simply because you are not sure how to word it so taht they do not feel bad. A couple of such happenings could RUIN your trip.
Punjabi hospitality is definitely uncoupled, but if they are themselves on a visit, you’d be dragged with them…you’d end up spending much time with their family and relatives, many of whom wouldn’t even be able to communicate with you.
The best thing to do would be ask them to bring back pictures of their trip…based on those pics and other information, plan your own trip with one of your friends. You can visit Punjab and have one of the local relatives guide you. That way you’d have guidance as well as your own freedom.
Hope that helps!